Topic: Winning Your Unbelieving Spouse To Christ (Part 2)
Last week, I taught on how prayer can get an unbelieving spouse saved. However, this week, we will be adding more strength to our prayers through our actions. It is popularly said that, “Action speaks louder than words” this is very correct, as people rather read your actions than what you say to them. They want to know if truly you are what you prescribe for them – being Christ-like. There is A Life That Speaks! Its voice is louder than the sound from the vocal cavity of man. This is one effective way to get an unbelieving husband or wife saved. It flourishes your prayers for your spouse and ministers’ praise and glory to God. It is the kind of life that every believer must exhibit in the home, at work, at the market place and everywhere, so that sinners can be magnetized into the kingdom of God.
Your life is the greatest witness, especially to your spouse and loved ones. Your unbelieving spouse will always consciously or unconsciously watch to see what you preach in your actions. What you portray on a daily basis, especially in the secrecy of your home should not be farther from what you say.
Your Christian life must be one of good example that portrays the fruits of the Spirit. As it is written in Galatians 5:22-23: But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance: against such there is no law. If you live a Christian life having these characteristics, it will influence your spouse and even other relations such that you do not need to open your mouth to witness to them (even though it is scriptural to witness to them), they will be attracted to the kingdom of God.
Your spouse will be easily won to Christ, when you possess the fruits of the Spirit mentioned above. This way, you will be leading by example. Possessing these characteristics replaces every other negative attitude within you, thereby reflecting the inner beauty of Christ in you. Jesus, our role model for winning souls, expects us to live a life worthy of emulation. God’s Word in Matthew 5:16 says: Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven. I have had opportunities to counsel people who have unsaved loved ones and discovered that quite a number of them do not live lives that speak right in their homes. I once met a woman who was having problems with the salvation of her husband, and I discovered from my discussion with her that the way she used her tongue in the home had constituted the major obstacles to the man’s salvation. Brethren, be chaste in your conversation! Women are usually guilty of this. As long as you keep nagging your unsaved husband, after a while, he will not even like you to be around him. This may even lead to divorce in a home. Do not let your tongue be a trap to your loved ones; let it be an asset! Let your tongue speak blessing to your home and not create a division. Understand that there is power in your tongue and you are permitted to see what you say. So, if you keep speaking the salvation of your spouse in faith, showing them love to water what you believe, then you will surely see the salvation of your spouse.
Living a Christian life is not as convenient but compulsory. You have a job to do. So, a woman who has a husband who is an unbeliever and who probably is a drunkard, would need to fall on her knees and take the situation to God in prayers. She would also need to follow it up in prayers with a practice of the fruits of the Spirit. Nagging, insulting, abusing or cursing the man will only push him deeper into his sins. Remember, whatever happens to him, will also affect you too in the long run.
Instead, let your life be a living proof of the characteristics of the fruits of the Spirit. Let love, gentleness and meekness be your stronghold. Let it move you to prayers, watching out for your unbelieving spouse even in a terrible drunken state. I tell you, very shortly, he or she will come to realise the depth of your love and gentle character that he or she won’t need too much lecture on turning over a new leaf. Let your actions be the one that speaks patience, temperance, faith and very shortly God will touch your spouse’s heart by His power as written in John 6:44 which says: No man can come to me, except the Father which hath sent me draw him: and I will raise him up at the last day.
Here is a testimony that will inspire you: When we started preparing for the Women Convention, I prayed to God and told Him I wanted my own family renewed. I did not like the names I was being called, (I was being called the wife of an unbeliever). But I told God I didn’t want to be called that again. And God did a great thing, even before the convention began! God has changed my husband! On the day of the last breakthrough night, my husband said, “We have to go to church”. We came to church together and he gave his life to Christ that day. He has now stopped smoking and everything has changed in his life. He is now, a new born person!
During the special ministration sessions at the convention, I stood in the gap for my husband using my neck chain and on getting home, I placed the chain on my husband’s neck and placed my anointed forehead on his and he started to prophesy, speaking in tongues! My husband had always criticised speaking in tongues, and here he was doing just that. – Efemuaye L.
I see God do the same for you in Jesus’ name! With Him, ALL things are possible. Embrace Jesus today and turn the life of your spouse around for good. If you are not born again and you want to accept Jesus as your Lord and personal Saviour, then say this prayer in faith: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the living God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.
Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are now born again and a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).
With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ Name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org, 07026385437 OR 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).
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Pastor Faith Oyedepo is the wife of Bishop David Oyedepo, the founder of the Living Faith Church Worldwide a.k.a. Winners’ Chapel, and Senior Pastor of Faith Tabernacle, Canaanland, Ota, Nigeria.